Breaking the Patterns That Shape Our Lives

"Ever wondered why the same challenges keep showing up, no matter how successful you are? The answer isn’t external — it’s within. Inner child work, forgiveness, and mindful release can break the pattern and unlock your potential."https://www.bodhisattvaa.com/

From the moment we are born, life imprints us with experiences that shape the way we think, feel, and act. Some of these experiences are empowering, but many of them create patterns that silently repeat themselves in our careers, our relationships, and even our health.

Take a simple example: a child being rejected or compared with siblings. At that moment, the child’s nervous system may not have the strength to process the pain, so the experience sinks into the subconscious. Years later, as adults, we may find ourselves attracting similar relationships, replaying that same rejection, or unconsciously limiting our success.

Why does this happen? Until the age of 7–8, the conscious mind — the filter that questions, analyzes, and protects — isn’t fully developed. Before that, the subconscious absorbs everything like a sponge, without judgment. It becomes a database of unfiltered truths, shaping the way we manifest our reality in money, health, career, or relationship.

Think of your subconscious mind as a hard drive. It stores every experience, every word, every emotion — not just from this life, but from all your past lives. This is also known as soul memory. These memories are fixed; they are the raw data of your existence, shaping how you perceive reality. While your conscious mind, on the other hand, is like a temporary software program. It manages the present moment, solves problems, and decides how to respond to life. Its job is also to act as a “security guard” for the subconscious, evaluating experiences and determining whether they align with our stored memories.

Through this interaction, our subconscious creates core belief systems — patterns of coping, defense mechanisms, and unique belief systems — which influence everything we manifest in life. These imprints, often stored as emotional or physical charges, are why similar challenges repeat across relationships, careers, or health.

Here’s the remarkable part: the subconscious is connected to collective consciousness — the totality of knowledge, awareness, and wisdom of existence. It knows what we need to learn, our life purpose, and what will help us evolve.

Karma also plays its role. But it is not as heavy as we often believe. Roughly 5% of our challenges stem from the present life, 0.1% from the womb, while nearly 95% are residues of past lives. This is where concepts like soul fragmentation matter — parts of us frozen in pain, still carrying the memory of those unresolved emotions.

Breaking patterns begins with:

1. Awareness – noticing the misalignment between your current life and your desired life.

2. Acceptance – moving beyond victimhood, understanding the conditioning you carry.

3. Forgiveness – releasing the root cause of emotional patterns, whether from parents, siblings, or past selves.

Healing begins when we integrate these fragmented parts and shift the mind.

Tools like inner child healing, womb healing, or past life regression therapy provide a safe way to uncover, release, and rewrite these stories. By doing so, we stop being prisoners of the past and begin creating the life we choose, not the one we inherited.

Breaking patterns is not about rejecting who we were — it is about reclaiming who we are meant to be.